The untethered soul ebook download
You will come to see that any behavior pattern based upon the avoidance of pain becomes a doorway to the pain itself. All of your thoughts and feelings will be affected by your fears. If you are doing something to avoid pain, then pain is running your life. That is how we create a pain that is always there. Even though the actual events causing rejection are infrequent, you will have to deal with the fear of rejection all the time. That fear will become part of your psyche. To understand this, notice that if the feeling of rejection is a major problem for you, you will fear experiences that cause rejection. The psyche is built upon avoiding this pain, and as a result, it has fear of pain as its foundation. We feel it most when our hearts go into turmoil, like when the world does not meet our expectations. Inner pain is always there, underneath, hidden by the layers of our thoughts and emotions. Physical pain is only there when something is physiologically wrong. But this pain is not the physical pain that you receive as messages from your body.
Because the pain is at the core of the heart, it radiates out and affects everything you do. Since avoiding the pain prohibits you from exploring the part of your being that is beyond that layer, real growth takes place when you finally decide to deal with the pain. Your entire personality is built upon ways of being, thinking, acting, and believing that were developed to avoid this pain. This pain is so uncomfortable, so challenging, and so destructive to the individual self, that your entire life is spent avoiding it. Once you can face your disturbances, you will realize that there is a layer of pain seated deep in the core of your heart. Even though you may not actually like the feelings of inner disturbance, you must be able to sit quietly inside and face them if you want to see where they come from. This is often perceived as a painful experience.īecoming familiar with this pain is part of your growth. Change involves challenging what is familiar to us and daring to question our traditional needs for safety, comfort, and control.
No expansion or evolution can take place without change, and periods of change are not always comfortable. One of the essential requirements for true spiritual growth and deep personal transformation is coming to peace with pain.